Should Dare #16 return to the Master Dare List
The dare that was deleted:
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There’s been some controversy over this one so I’m putting it to a vote.
Some people have said it’s unethical, dangerous and unfair but as it’s entirely optional (like all the dares) and everyone who does this dare can choose to not publish the photo (or obscure faces), I don’t see a problem.
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It is like any other dare, it is not compulsory, so what is the problem?
Do the same feelings apply to
14 A naked pair
A photo of you standing fully naked with another fully naked person.
17, Naked with someone else holding your clothes
They can be a friend or a willing member of the public, but they must ALL have your clothes in the photo.
20, Naked with a clothed group
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My vote is to include it, for all the reasons you have said.
We had similar discussions around the railway/railroad picture because of different laws in different countries.
If the dares were only those everyone was comfortable and able (legally) then we’d have a choice of about 3.Ed likes this
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As mentioned previously…
1. Gdpr / proof of permission given
2. Risk of accusations of revenge porn
3. Risk of causing controlling behaviour
It just feels utterly wrong to ask my partner can i take a naked photo of us both and send it to a bloke we havent met.
Stopped taking part in July because of it. Still joint top.
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1) I keep proofs of permission.
2) Photos don’t have to be published (many aren’t anyway)
3) I simply don’t understand that point.
If it feels wrong in your situation, then don’t. You are under zero obligation to do anything you don’t want to do. No-one is being forced or required to do anything. No-one should do the dares unless they are sure they want to.
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1. But what proof have you got that the partner has given permission? Can it be validated.
2. It’s still revenge porn if its been sent whether you publish it or not.
3. Both 1 and 2 are uk government recognised signs of domestic abuse brought on by controlling behaviour. You need to understand.
Thanks for addressing the point i first made some five months.
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1. There are several ways to do that. The way we do it for the Vote-Offs has never caused any complaints or led to any problems. Would that work?
2. How is it revenge porn if it’s not published. First, it’s not porn. Second. No-one sees it.
As has already been pointed out several times, Dare #16 is not unique (Look at Dare 14, for example and the precise same “problems” kick in with several of the dares and the entire community concept. There are lots of photos posted by members in the forums generally, that provide no proof of consent and where the subject of the photo is not verified in any way (ie no-one knows if the person posting is the person in the photo).
Would it be better if I should close down the entire site? (Although on that basis, maybe the entire Internet should go). I don’t subscribe to the view that because a system could potentially be used by a criminal for nefarious purposes, the system should go.
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We’re not going to be able to do them all. I’m not sure what the fuss is, if you can’t or don’t want to do a dare, then don’t, end of.
I can’t do that dare myself as I’m single 🙂
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There must be more than 6 people here who have an opinion on this?
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I am also single and therefore the correct answer would be “not applicable” which wasn’t an option.
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Feels like I’m always making excused and perhaps I am, I’ll have to have a think about that.
Anyway I can’t do anything outside in the next week or so as I’ve been suffering a nasty chest infection.
I may try changing room, or go for a swim at the weekend depending on how I’m feeling, I doubt I’ll be feeling like setting up a selfie in the open air for a few weeks though.
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I have voted against it returning. And that is because it is no different to “with another nude person” except for the increased risk of identification for the other person. There is the question of whether they have given approval or not, or forced to give approval as an aspect of domestic abuse, but the “another person” doesn’t increase the connection between the two individuals in the image. Knowledge that the two are partners adds to possibility of the partners identity
if it returned though, that’s fine, I just wouldn’t submit a photo for it. And I firmly believe that the aim of the master dare list should be to have published proof of the dare, rather than a note to say that a photo has been sent to an individual (Ed) but not been published on this site. I don’t understand why anyone would send a photo but not allow it to be published! So perhaps there should be two leader boards – based on visible and invisible images!!
still, I have a few more to get sorted and submitted….
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So we should stick to just 14?
Maybe there should be a replacement for 16 stipulating someone of the opposite sex? Rather than a partner?
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I have stayed away from having multiple tables. Anything which increases complexity increases my workload and, in my experience, causes confusion. Also, what happens if someone gives permission for some to be published but not all, which table should I put that person on? Or both??
It would feel more worthwhile if we had more Patreon supporters, but I’m still struggling there. Marketing just isn’t my thing.
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Ed,
I voted yes to reinstate #16. In following the threads, and noting the last few between Martin and yourself I don’t have an argument with changing or refining the challenge had it been done simply for the reason of improving it and/or the entire MDL. But, I believe 16 should be reinstated as it was and then to be changed whenever an improvement is carefully calmly crafted.
I feel as the way and reason 16 was deleted was that unlike Martin, another member was not satisfied to make their own choice but to demand you deprive everyone else of theirs. Like another on this thread, I currently have no qualifying relationship to be able to post there, if that changes anything is possible but I still doubt that I would choose to post there. But I’d have it my choice to make. The member’s motivation may be a good one, but the ultimatum demanded of you is not reasonable. A precedent currently rests in the sixteenth column that should be reversed regardless the content of that dare.
Ed, I hope you will restore it, however briefly before any change or refinement, just to clarify – perhaps reassure the membership – that our own freedom to choose cannot be surrendered to policy of appeasement.
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You raise some very good points there, @voyager61. You’re right, removing it was appeasement. That doesn’t necessarily mean it wasn’t the right choice, but the member in question is clearly not alone in having reservations.
I’m wondering if I should add a requirement for all naked participants in any MDL photo to appear in a second photo while holding up a piece of paper each with the site name on it, to prove awareness and consent (ie no hidden cameras etc).
I’m worried that requiring that will complicate the process and put new participants off (it doesn’t take much to put people off in my experience).
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