Open for Photo Submissions

[Ed]

Let’s get this event rolling!

 

Either submit your photos in the next couple of days or let me know you’re going to send them soon. It would be good to open the voting at the weekend, if everyone can be ready by then.

Participation Instructions

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[Ed]

One participant signed up. Any more?

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[Anonymous]

I would if I could but I’ve not been alone in the house since September 2020, with no sign that’ll change any time soon. ☹️

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[Ed]

Again, maybe next time?

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[Anonymous]

Maybe!  No promises though! 😁

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[Martin]

I will do…. just need to do the photos.

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[Ed]

Two submissions so far. As soon as we get two more, I can kick off the event.

If anyone else is going to join in, please let me know. I don’t need the photos immediately, but if I don’t know you’re planning to take part, I might start it without you!

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[Ed]

Anyone else? I’m not going to start the event until we have at least two more participants.

If any of you know anyone who might like to take part, please let them know!

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[alex]

Sorry I can’t join in this time. I have enjoyed how long I’ve been left exposed for though.

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[Ed]

That’s unfortunate. Maybe next time?

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[reborle4]

Hi, I am a new user. What kind of pics are necessary? Does any woman participate?

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[Ed]

We can’t have men and women in the same event unless they were all couples, otherwise the women would take all the votes. Plua only one woman has ever volunteered anyway. Getting ladies to participate is always a major challenge 🙁

The photos are described in detail on the event page:

Participation Instructions

It’s in the site’s main menu at the top (under “Vote Off Their Clothes”).

 

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[reborle4]

Who is she?

 

[Ed]

A woman who signed up to take part in one of our experiment sessions at the latter end of last year but that’s all on hold now. She’s not actually a member of this community.

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[Ed]

It’s been a struggle to make the community more attractive to women. One of the problems that often happens, pretty much every time a woman does join is that everyone tries to add her as a friend and start conversations. In most cases they feel overwhelmed and leave within a couple of days.

It’s a vicious circle as the lack of women makes this problem worse and, in turn, contributes to the lack of women.

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[reborle4]

You mean if no other woman shows up she won’t participate…

[Ed]

Not if she’s the only one, no. If we did an event with 4 men and 1 woman, the woman will take the vast majority of the votes and it would all be over very quickly. It wouldn’t really be much of a competition.

I still think the fairest way to do it would be male/female pairs (ie couples). That way there’s no competition between the sexes.

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[Ed]

How do I get couples to take part in a future vote-off event?

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[Joseph]

No idea, it seems that to my knowledge we only have one couple active here. Maybe if we did a females only instead, but even then it would require lots of women that are active (at least 4) which we do not have.

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[Ed]

There are two routes forward for that. Either, as a community, we try to encourage as many people as possible (from outside this community) to get involved. That may not increase the percentage of women here but 0.5% of 1000 gives much better odds than 0.5% of 250.

Or, we try to make the community much more attractive to women. Some of that is the vicious circle that women don’t stay because when they do visit the community there seem to be no other women here, but the single most common complaint I get from women is that as soon as they join, several men hit on them within hours. If they post in the forums, that gets even worse. Most of us are fine, but it only takes a small minority to ruin it for everyone else.

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[Ed]

Admittedly, I’ve only spoken with four women about the vote off events but all of them have said they would not even consider taking part while the community is essentially all men. Before Christmas, I had two couples lined up to probably take part if I could find more. That all fell apart in December.

During the course of a year, we get easily enough women interested to put together an event but they often only stay a couple of weeks and we never seem to get more than one or two at a time. It’s depressing. I feel like I’m going around in circles.

After the last vote-off event, visitors to the site were way up, we gained a lot of new members and two new women expressed an interest in the experiments (neither will join the site though 🙁 ). Now I’ve lost contact with one, the experiments are postponed until the lockdown ends, visitors to the community have fallen by 50% and it’s lost about 1/3rd of the Community Supporters.

I try to stay positive but this one step forward, one step back thing has been going on for years now.

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[Joseph]

Maybe it’s time to make a rule that is Dont hit on new members or something of the like, and those who do so are removed. This is all just thinking out loud.

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[Ed]

That’s not a bad idea. Or don’t hit on female members, at all, maybe?

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[Joseph]

Or that too, a compliment is one thing but I am very sure this isn’t a dating site lol.

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[Ed]

Any more participants? It’s all gone quiet!

[Ed]

Things seem to have stalled at just 2 participants. I don’t think that’s enough to proceed. Should we keep things open for a while?

Anyone else thinking about taking part?

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[Ed]

Come on, guys! There have to be two more volunteers for the next Vote-Off event. It’s almost two months since the last one (which was a huge success), so who wants to see another one?

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