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I still use Twitter even though I don’t like how it’s a haven for misinformation and fascism under Elon Musk, but I think that grok is actually pretty objective because it says bad things about Elon Musk and contradicts his political positions that are not based in fact, although he’s working towards trying to change that. I don’t really use Twitter for anything kinky though, I save some kinky pictures from there but I don’t post anything like that on twitter.

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@Ed
“This newspaper article is interesting. The writer says “Nudity has a solid tradition in the performance arts context, and is anything but radical. But informed by social media, our contemporary visual habits confine the naked body to porn. If the body doesn’t belong to a cisgender man, it is an object to be censored and regulated. Seeing Holzinger on stage, however, we look at it as a weapon, a tool and sometimes a joke.”
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2025/jun/17/berlin-florentina-holzinger-director-stage”

I think this makes sense because I think that we are desensitized to war and violence because although war and violence are bad things I think that people view people doing violence as in a position of strength, whereas being naked and exposed or relieving yourself one stage is a situation of grown mobility which I think is more jarring to the average person because you generally don’t see it. Maybe if that became more common we would grow desensitized to it much like people who grow up in nudist homes are desensitized to nudity and don’t necessarily view that sexual. Since nudity and bodily functions and things of that nature are still highly covered up I think that they tend to be much more taboo and that gives them more of an erotic charge which I think is why it is hard to view it as nonsexual because for most people the only time they are naked is in the bathroom or when they are having sex.

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@TheG

“I think some people, maybe a lot of people, experience “embarrassment” as “outrage”, added to which, people deflect their own embarrassment by transferring it onto others. If I stood naked in the daytime on the bandstand in the town centre (I hope I’m not giving away one of my fantasies!) people would say “He can’t do that. My grandma/daughter/dog would be really embarrassed and that’s outrageous.”

I think that that is definitely true, when people get embarrassed they tend to end up getting angry by that and then they look to somebody to blame for the situation I guess you would say. Whether you are the person feeling uncomfortable because somebody else’s naked, or because you are naked that embarrassment can easily turn into anger and frustration.

“Of course, it depends on the context as well. I remember when my kids were younger we went to Bournemouth beach where toplessness is tolerated, or it was at the time. My oldest daughter was old enough to have her own opinions and didn’t bat an eyelid, but I imagine in the town centre she’d have pointed and loudly asked why someone hadn’t got dressed.”

I think that is true because when you are in a clothing optional place there will be a mixture of people who are dressed and naked but when you are the only one naked in a situation where everybody else  is expected to be or assumed to be dressed it does sort of make you stand out a lot more which makes the whole thing even more awkward and uncomfortable for everybody concerned I suppose,  because when you stand out like that all of the focus and attention ends up being on you and all of people’s uncomfortable and awkward feelings get projected onto you and vice versa.

 

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@Ed

“I can understand people being shy or otherwise unwilling about being seen naked, but I struggle to see why some people are so embarrassed or bothered by seeing other people naked.”

I think because in a case where somebody is naked and somebody is not naked it necessarily creates a power dynamic where the naked person is in a situation of vulnerability, so when you see other people naked and you are dressed you feel like you are in a position of power and you don’t want to be seen to abuse that are to be creepy. If you are the one naked I suppose that could be seen as exhibitionism, but you are essentially the one in the vulnerable position. It would probably be more embarrassing to be actually seen naked than to see others naked though, but I probably would feel kind of awkward if I were standing around dressed and I was around another person who was naked. I think that it’s kind of hard for the average person if they are not expecting that to know what the protocol is in a situation like that. Creates an awkward space for pretty much everybody involved.

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I have to admit I had  finally calmed down in trying to illustrate every single thing that I  think of but now the prospect of video is probably going to drag me back in! But yeah it is true most of these will not do male nudity because I guess that is considered to be more explicit than female nudity.

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@Jess

“Interesting. I’ve read extensively about asexuality, yet I still feel confused. I am shy of publicly coming out as such for the sake of my husband, but I think it comes down to potentially being asexual but hetero-romantic.
I want to be with him, and I don’t want to damage this relationship.
I’m from a Christian background and thought everyone else was making too much of the “no sex before marriage” issue, since that wasn’t hard for me.

I’ve got 2 kids, so we obviously did/do have a sex life, but I’d still say the sexual attraction issue means I probably do fit somewhere on what the youngsters are now calling the “asexuality spectrum”.”

I think these issues can be confusing because pretty much everything really does exist on a spectrum, very few things are black and  white. And even if you experience sexual desire sometimes you could still technically be asexual. I wouldn’t really consider myself to be asexual because sometimes my fetishes can become so overpowering that I can barely think about anything else, but outside of those particular fetishes hardly anything really gets me excited I guess you would say, so I would say that I have a very narrow range of sexual interests rather than being asexual, but those fetishes can sometimes become the all consuming focus of autistic hyperfocus. I probably am aromantic though because I never had any desire for like romance, marriage and children and stuff like that. Sometimes it can be difficult to place yourself on a spectrum like that cause there’s a lot of nuance.

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@Ed

“That’s fascinating. I haven’t looked into that at all. Thinking about it, many of the people who run adult sites in the UK seem to be on the spectrum, certainly all the ones I’ve had dealings with.”

I’ve noticed that most of the fetish sites I have seen seem to be UK based, but it wouldn’t surprise me if a lot of them a run by people on the spectrum since a lot of people on the spectrum are good with computers and programming and stuff like that. I have to admit though I am not one of them, because although I use computers all day I don’t know anything about programming or running a sight or anything like that.

I have read fair amount about this and there does seem to be a pretty strong correlation between being on the spectrum and having unusual sexual interest, where you can have like maybe not a strong interest in natural having sexual intercourse or even not really being turned on by that, but other things like embarrassing nudity or other fetishes that have sensory issues and social awkwardness that go along with it I think perhaps appeal to people like this.

So it’s true that while people on the spectrum sometimes our asexual aside from a particular fetish sometimes the fetish itself though is very strong and you can become hyper fixated on it. I call it a fetish binge where sometimes I get on this thing where for like 7 to 10 days usually I can barely think about anything. They’re getting more few and far between as I am getting older but when I get on one you can become extremely obsessed with this to the exclusion of everything else. I don’t know how many other people experienced something similar but there definitely is a correlation for sure. People on the spectrum are more likely to have fetishes and paraphilias compared to the general population.

LGBT people are also overrepresented among people on the spectrum especially women, where a majority in some cases are LGBT.

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@Jess

“I wonder how many of us are neurodivergent? I’m recently diagnosed ADHD with a strong suspicion of co-existing autism from the way I answered some of the screening questions. Compared to the rest of my family, I don’t see the ASD in me so much. My daughter is the only other one diagnosed (dual ADHD/autism) but my son clearly has both. We think the autism is my husband’s gift to them and I provided the ADHD!”

I have been reading and watching lots of videos about this topic and a lot of the communities I have for particular sexual fetishes it does seem like there is an over represented  number of people on the spectrum to the point where it almost seems like they are the majority. I think it might just be because when you don’t read social rules normally you probably don’t have the same necessary inhibitions, or maybe on the opposite side, you have more inhibition. But it does seem like people who are on the spectrum tend to have more divergent sexuality, where many are often asexual but often have kinks. And I have heard that a lot of autistic people enjoy  embracing nudity because being naked frees you from the sensory overwhelm of clothing.

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@Dan44

I thought that that was an interesting video which led to another interesting video about being a stripper and a feminist. I definitely think that that video has a point, I think that most people if they have been naked around each other for a while would probably get more used to it and perhaps feel better about it, the taboo around nudity is the fact that most people don’t ever see each other naked, and that’s what makes it somewhat enticing whereas if nudity was more normalized it wouldn’t have the same charge I guess you would say.

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@Jess

“Thanks for contributing to the discussion. You make a good point that a woman with her legs together is considered differently to if they are open and giving s view. I hate to try to navigate unwritten rules. I prefer if someone clearly tells me what’s what.”

I totally agree, as a person who is autistic I don’t understand unwritten social rules at all so I don’t know how I would ever navigate a naked or sexual situation or anything like that!

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