How to define what I am feeling/seeing here?

[ptHarry]

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I think you have to do whatever you are comfortable with, whenever you feel comfortable doing it and with whoever you feel comfortable with — provided of course that they also feel comfortable too.

There shouldn’t need to be any hurry, other than to try to take advantage of whatever opportunities, events and situations arise, especially if they are opportunities that are limited or infrequent.

Likewise, you should concentrate on the things you do feel comfortable with, and ignore those that you do not. We all have different abilities, backgrounds and circumstances. Some want to do things individually, some want to do things with others. Some are happy to be photographed, or to do things that are risky. Some want to do things on their own, some want to do things in person with others. Some want an audience, some want to be private and others don’t care whether they are seen as long as whatever they do is legal.

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[John]

I’ve found everyone to very respectful on here, well apart from one man I haven’t seen on here for a while.

You’ll be fine, you’re on a journey and you don’t know where it’s going yet. Take your time, think it through like you have been doing, and don’t do anything that you are uncomfortable with.

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[Jesss]

It’s funny how much context matters. On the beach in Greece I feel fully dressed in a tiny bikini. I wouldn’t attempt to go through the airport like this though!

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[John]

Please post the video if you ever attempt this 🤣

The media is to blame for a lot of this, any reference to nudity is dealt by with sniggers and innuendo.

In actual fact it is perfectly legal to walk round town or the local supermarket naked, provided there is no intention to cause offence.

Personally I won’t be doing that any time soon, but the media do put out a false narrative and add to the perception that nudity is somehow sinful and must be sexual in nature.

[Since1980_v2]

The mdl and other challenges on here are not the main point of the site. The main point is there is a community here who can talk about their interest in nudity or naturism. There is no rule you must be a nudist to be here there is no rule you must post a photo. Being here is about being part of community where you can talk and raise opinions.or concerns about how your feeling.

Defining things can often lead to over thinking and getting upset. I think the best way to look at what you see here is to take it for what it is..it’s just group of random people sharing experiences either though text or photography nothing more nothing less. You don’t have to define everything in life, it doesn’t have to make sense if you are happy in the moment then live for that moment. Enjoy it and try not to over think it. Don’t let others actions pressure you. Just because others post images doesn’t mean you have to and doesn’t mean you should think you to to be part of the community. It doesn’t detract from anything you do do, you can challenge yourself and not offer up evidence you will still know what you did. Half the time talking about an experience is more enlightning to other people than a photo would be.

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[Jesss]

Yes, I don’t particularly want to look at images of other people’s MDL dares. That’s not what I’m here for, but I kind of want the rush the dares give, to a very small degree. I’m never going to go past the first few. I wouldn’t want the consequences of a slip up.

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[John]

If anyone posts a dare, I always have a look, male or female, whether it interests me or not.

If I’ve taken the trouble to post a dare, I would hope my picture or video is watched, so I always make a point of having a look at others 🙂

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[Jesss]

I thought I had replied here — but it seems I lost the text.
I have browsed through the MDL list photos, but it’s not exactly a busy site. You mention checking when people put photos on, but do you receive a notification? I don’t get any notifications from this site to my email. That might be for the best though, lest they give me away!

[Jesss]

What’s the “verified male” bit on your profile all about? With the kind of posts this site has, I think I can work out someone like that, but I’m not siting it on other profiles?

With recent politics in mind, did you have to upload s birth certificate to prove it?

[John]

<p style=”text-align: left;”>I can’t actually remember how it was done, probably when I entered a vote off, but Ed verified my identity somehow at one point.</p>
I usually check the site at least weekly, more often if I can, and Ed always posts if he’s received or uploaded pics to the dare list. It’s not scientific but I usually know if it’s been updated.

I’m going to try and do some more with the weather picking up and hopefully having a car after this weekend.

My issue is practicality, I’m  not sure how to use a selfie stick and trying to get a phone to stay still several feet away at the right angle to catch me and whatever I’m meant to be standing by ain’t easy.

[Jesss]

Is it just me that’s had difficulties getting Patreon to let me in this morning?

Apparently I’m suspicious? I’m I’m now in, but it took several attempts on different browsers.

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[ptHarry]

Mine went straight in, after a short delay but nothing unusual. But I didn’t try it earlier this morning.

 

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[Jesss]

I’m back in, and I’ve changed my photo.
I think it’s actually less stressful with this one, because the avatar linked to my Google account would possibly be recognised by friends and family (although it wasn’t my photo, I have used it elsewhere.)  I don’t think they would suspect me if they randomly saw this pic on the internet!

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[Jesss]

So I’m wondering, to what extent I’m actually seeking out ways to get an adrenaline rush from dares? I have already mentioned that I have ADHD and adrenaline and ADHD are linked.
I think that I am happier with the idea that I’m overstepping the boundaries to challenge myself and get adrenaline flowing, than the idea that I’m becoming an exhibitionist.
I don’t know how to differentiate the thrill of nudity from the sexual area?

Oversharing alert: I actually feel I could be asexual, I certainly have no visual attraction towards either gender, but want to remain in my marriage so I do actually make effort to have a sex life!

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[Ed]

I just got coPilot to do some research on what percentage of people have some level of exhibitionism. It didn’t produce any figures, but it did describe exhibitionism in men is considered a paraphilic disorder or a perversion by psychologists. It then went on to add that exhibitionism in women is considered a form of self-expression, confidence-building, or rebellion against societal norms.

There seems to be a touch of sexism in there. Just not sure which way around.

I did find in earlier research that more than 25% percent of women are exhibitionists but most don’t indulge (or don’t admit to it!). It’s 9% in men but the majority of those do indulge.

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[Ed]

I think a lot of people enjoy the adrenaline rush of being naked in a public/risky place. That’s certainly the feedback I’ve been receiving over the years.

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[Since1980_v2]

I think the public/risky place are two different things.

There are public places where it’s completely fine to be naked or it’s just not risky to be naked due to circumstances. I don’t think getting naked at these gives the adrenaline rush but maybe a feeling of accomplishment or just an overwhelming freeing feeling.

Being naked on a completely abandoned hill top, in the middle of a field or in a gym shower and changing room. These are all places with no risk. Even the gym after a shower people expect you to be naked.  It’s not the same as sowewhere it’s not expected it just feels relaxing.

 

The public and risky definitely gives an adrenaline rush. Stripping down in a multi story car park, walking naked down a road with no where to hide away from clothes or standing in the middle of the railroad tracks all gave me bot a sense of satisfaction and a big adrenaline rush.

 

If I’ve set out just go for a walk in a safe place and it turns out I can’t do the walk it’s a shame but that’s about it. Doesn’t really leave me feeling anything.

If I’ve gone out with a specific challenge in mind and it can’t be done or the video doesn’t record properly I feel a drop in mood and get very deflated.

Sometimes I’m looking for the rush other times I’m just looking to feel free.

[Jesss]

I suspect I’m very sensitive to the adrenaline thing. Just stepping outside my back door naked is doing it to some degree, and making plans for what I might be prepared to do in future if leaving me on a real adrenaline rush — but then my background is pretty conservative. The idea that there’s a few naked photos of me on the Internet (a with face obscured) would have been unthinkable a year ago.

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[Since1980_v2]

With your swim coming up it would be interesting to see after how it felt. Did you get the adrenaline rush from it or just feel free and relaxed. I think we get caught up on what we are doing and because things feel daring we get the rush.

 

After an initial strip at the swim I’m guessing you will get to a state of relaxation rather than an adrenaline rush and future swims would be more about the relaxation than the rush.

The swim isn’t one of those oh crap what if I get seen moments it’s just natural. I think you will find 2 different sides to how you feel getting naked then depending on the event.  Can’t wait for the write up of your experience

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[Jesss]

The swim will be fine. We also thought about which MDL we might do on the same day, that was the thing on my mind.
I think I will be pulling back to the safe and not also attempting any outdoor dares.

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[John]

<p style=”text-align: left;”>We’re very conscious of only doing what we’re  both comfortable with.</p>
<p style=”text-align: left;”>My prediction? It’ll be somewhere between sitting clothed, playing whist, and naked skydiving 🤣</p>

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[ptHarry]

@seasider

If you do opt for naked skydiving (or stripping on the way down), just remember there’s one item you should definitely not take off — the parachute 🙂

 

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